Lesson 9-Kissing Tips

From the past few days the guys are asking me how they can kiss their dates. I have explored a lot of things for this lesson. Check out if they work well and leave a comment if you have to say something to me.

A first kiss should always be done while the two of you are alone. This will help to avoid any unnecessary nervousness and embarrassing situations.The best type of kiss is one that uses different variations... such as starting with a small kiss, working into a French Kiss, maybe sucking on your partner's upper or lower lip...
And don't just leave kisses to the lips. Kiss their cheeks, their chin or their eyelids. This can be very seductive and romantic.

Basic Kissing Tips
Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath. If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.

Moist Lips
You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don't wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey. And don't wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner's and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience. Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction. Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes.

Open Lips
Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.
Closed Lips - This is like the type of kiss you'd give your grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye kiss or a great first time kiss if you're nervous.

French Kissing
This is the most popular type of kiss. This involves touching your tongue with your partner's and it can be quite a pleasant experience. There are a few tips to create a great french kiss.
Open Lips - Open your lips over your partner's slightly more than you would during a regular kiss. This makes it easier to place your tongue in your partner's mouth.
Tongue - Place the tip of your tongue on the tip of your partner's tongue. Do not force your tongue too far into their mouth. If you wish, you can play with their tongue by circling theirs with your own. Have fun with it. Explore.

Using of Tongue
You may explore different ways of using your tongue. Try running the tip of your tongue over your partner's lips. Do this slowly and gently, just using the tip of your tongue. Suck Kissing can be a very seductive type of kiss. Instead of French Kissing with your mouth open, while your partner's lips are parted suck on their top our bottom lip with your own, just for a second or two. Then go back to another type of kiss or try the other lip.

Nip Kissing
This type of kiss has to be done carefully, but when done correctly can create a wonderful effect on your date. While suck kissing, gently bite their lip, but be VERY gentle so as not to hurt your date / partner. This kiss should only be done with someone that you've kissed a few times before, otherwise you may shock your partner.

Surprise Kissing
This type of kiss is done when your partner is lying down on a sofa or the ground, either asleep or just lying with their eyes closed. Quietly approach your partner and place a small, very gentle kiss on their lips. Intensify the kiss until your partner opens their eyes or awakens.

How to kiss shyness goodbye!
We've all seen kissing in the movies -- the way it's so perfect, and the way it just happens.
But real life is different. You're with that special someone at the movies. You want to kiss. But does he? Is he shy? Maybe you'll tell him you want to kiss him and end up rejected if he doesn't. Or maybe he wants to kiss you but he's the one who's shy. That's why kissing games are so popular.

Spin the bottle
The reason "Spin the Bottle" and other kissing games are so popular is that they let you kiss someone without having to admit that you like the person you're kissing. You're kissing because you have to.
Kissing games are also a good way to try different ways of kissing. In "Spin the Bottle," a group of guys and girls sit in a circle, and take turns spinning a bottle. When the bottle stops spinning you kiss the person it's pointing to.
But what if you're not playing a kissing game? How can you tell he wants to kiss you? Here's how:

How to tell if he wants to kiss you!
After you've kissed him once, you know he wants to kiss you. But what if you two have never kissed? The first kiss is the hardest.
You could ask him to kiss you, but that takes a lot of courage. But you can tell, without reading his mind. Here are some ways. He could have worked on the science project with someone else, but he asked you. He could have called somebody else to chat about the English assignment, but he called you. He could have sat anywhere in the cafeteria, but he sat next to you. It all means he likes to hang out with you.
And what about when you're with him. Does he sit close to you? Does he smile and look happy when you're together? These are all signs that he likes you and might want to kiss you.

How to get him to kiss you
Sometimes people who are nervous send out mixed signals. You might want him to kiss you, but your nervous behavior might be saying "stay away."
First of all your posture should be open. Sit or stand close to him. Face him. Look at him, not at the ground. Don't cross your arms or lean away; or, instead of "kiss me" you'll be saying "kiss off!"
Look into his eyes. Smile. Get close to him. If you're not holding hands yet, do it. Ask him to help you remove an earring, or undo the clasp of that gold chain you're wearing. To do that he's got to put both hands on your neck.
Now turn your head, and look in his eyes, and be quiet. Smile. If he says anything, just interrupt and whisper his name softly. He'll kiss you for sure!

How to kiss
When your lips meet, keep them slightly parted and press gently against his lips. Tilt your head slightly to one side, so your noses won't get in the way.
What do you do next? It depends. If it's just a little kiss, a peck on the lips, move away but (this is very important) don't move away all of a sudden, as if you were disgusted by his kiss! Just move away slowly, maybe while still holding hands, and looking in his eyes.
On the other hand, if you're French kissing, read on ...

French kissing (or Frenching)
French kisses are kisses in which you also use your tongues. (That's why you part your lips slightly.) So, after you've started kissing, the next step is that either he will slip his tongue into your mouth or you'll slip yours into his. Don't let your tongue go limp but move it around his, or playfully push his tongue out with yours, then let him push your tongue back into your mouth, and so on.
Repeat this until you get tired of it (which you never will!) or until your annoying little brother starts taping you with the camcorder and threatening to tell your parents.

Kissing with glasses or braces
If either of you wears glasses, just take them off before kissing.
If either has braces, the important thing not to press too hard agains this lips. Otherwise the braces will dig themselves into the inside of his mouth. Ouch!
If you both have braces, don't worry! During normal kissing your braces won't touch, so they can't get tangled up with each other!

Kissing do's and dont's
A sure way to ruin a perfect kiss is with bad breath. Carry around some mints or gum, and have one a few moments before you kiss. Offer him one too. Avoid spicy foods, garlic and onions just before. Or at least make sure you're both eating spicy food, so neither will notice. Non-smokers hate kissing a smoker! It's as gross as kissing an ashtray! You might be nervous, but don't giggle during or after you kiss. The other person won't understand it's nervous laughter. He'll think that you were laughing at him!

Kissing and health
Can you "catch something" by kissing? Yes you can -- anything from just a cold to a pretty serious sexually transmitted disease. Also, since the AIDS virus has been found in the saliva of people with AIDS, it could be transmitted by kissing someone who has the disease, especially if you have any cuts in your mouth.
There's no such thing as 100% safety. But if someone has a cold or the flu, wait until it's over. If you see he's got sores on his mouth or lips, stay away! Also, if you have cuts in your mouth, or he does this increses your chance of passing on infection.
I don't want to make you paranoid, but just to tell you there's no such thing as "safe kissing" so keep that in mind.

Kissing and s-e-x
Kissing can be a lot of fun. Don't think that just because you kiss a guy you have to do anything more.
On the other hand, once you're kissing passionatley, you might both feel like going further. The best way I know to avoid that is to kiss him in a semi-public place. If you kiss him in a movie theater or on your front porch, you know it's not going to lead to sex right there!
On the other hand, if you're sitting on your bed when your parents aren't home, there's not really anything to stop you, so it's something you might want to avoid.
I'm not trying to tell you how to run your life, just telling you what's worked for me.

Practice makes perfect!
The only way to get good at kissing is to practice. Have fun!